Have you experienced that overwhelming sense of bliss and contentment when you got your first peek at your little bundle of joy? How about the excitement you felt when your little baby took his or her first step? I bet you wished that those moments would never end.
Sadly, no matter how hard you wish for it, your baby is gonna grow up and eventually go through teenage years. Now, before you cringe at the thought, your child’s teenage years could be one of the most incredible things you will ever have. The most important thing you should do to ensure that would happen is to connect with your teen.
Here are some clever tips on how you can effectively reconnect with your teenager:
Bond together with their friends
If there’s one thing that teenagers value aside from family, it’s their friends. Try telling your teen that they could invite their friends over for sleepovers, weekend parties, or after-school hangouts. You can then ask them if you could join in on the fun. By doing this, you can make your teen feel like you’re really there and that you care. At the same time, you can also keep an eye on them without being too obvious or domineering.
Create family tradition or rituals
Think up something that the family can do every weekend or every night. It can be something simple like watching movies before going to bed, eating at a local restaurant for dinner, or going to the park to have a weekend picnic. Not only can you bond with your teen, but you also get to have fun and make countless good memories with your family. The key here is that you stick with this tradition or ritual.
Make sure that you always eat together
Mealtime is usually one of the perfect times to start a conversation with your teen. So, make it a regular thing in your household. Whether it’s during breakfast, lunch or dinner, make it a habit to initiate a conversation. You can start by telling them how your day went. You’ll be surprised at how that can spark a great dialogue.
Don’t forget to say “I love you”
If you think that your teen is too grown up to crave your affection, then you are totally wrong. Even teenagers long for their parents’ love and affection. You can easily reconnect with your teen by simply showing them your love through three simple words: “I love you.” Sometimes you don’t even have to say those words. There are numerous ways to show affection. You can make them feel loved just by saying “good morning” or “good night” or even by asking how their day went.
Show some interest in his or her passion
As a teenager, your child may have developed some interest in various fields. If your teen is into art, you can try enrolling both you and your teen for a short painting course. You can also try signing up for a painting session at your local art center. What you want to convey here is that you support your teen’s interests and that you want to get involved whenever you can.
Take your teen out on a date
Even if you’re busy with housework or with office work, make some time to take your teen out on a date. It doesn’t have to be every day. You can schedule a once-a-week date with your teen. You can go fishing, watch a movie, go shopping, or see a concert together. Find out what your teen likes and try to incorporate that as much as possible into your regular “dates.”
Do household chores together
Some parents usually assign some household chores to their children, but you can deviate from that and tell your teen that you will be doing household chores together. A much better idea is to turn one weekend into general cleaning day. Instead of letting your children do the chores, make it a fun task where everybody helps and contributes something.
Try to really listen
They might act cool and grown up, but they are still kids. Make your teen feel that you are somebody whom he or she can share anything with. Listen to what he or she has to say without making any judgment. Remember, there is no “judge” in judgment. Let your teen feel that you won’t judge him or her no matter what.
If you’re looking for the perfect time to reconnect with your teen, then stop. Learn to seize the moment and make every moment count. These things might seem inconsequential right now, but they will matter to your teen. Trust me.