As parents, we as a whole need similar things for our kids. We want our children to grow up happy. Of course, we also want them to experience love, to follow their dreams, and to succeed in life. So, what can we do to ensure that we are able to raise happy kids?
Below are some tips that could help you in your quest to raise a happy kid:
Happiness Starts from Within
Based on some research, there seems to be a relationship between parents who feel depressed and children having negative attributes. Depression actually affects our parenting and could cause our kids to develop behavioral problems.
So, how do we address this concern? It is best to take a little break sometimes. Go and have drinks with your friends. Have a fun night out with friends who can make you laugh and enjoy yourself.
Building Relationships with Others
Another way that you can teach your kids to be happy is to build meaningful relationships with others. As a person, it is important to have relationships since no man is an island. It can be with their friends, classmates, teachers, and especially with God.
It’s easy to say, but not many parents actually spare some time to teach their children to connect with other people. It’s actually not that hard. One thing you can try is to urge your kids to help others when they are in need. You’d be surprised to see what one small act of kindness can do.
Encouraging Effort and Hard Work over Perfection
Another great way to raise happy kids is to encourage them to put in more effort into things that they do and not be afraid of failure. One way that you can do this is to praise them every time that they make an effort to do something.
Receiving praises for their effort and hard work can motivate children to do better. Unlike when they are being praised for their talents or intelligence, being praised for doing their best can make children focus on learning instead of worrying over how others might perceive them.
Teaching about Positive Thinking
Teach your kid to be optimistic. Optimism does not only help children learn from difficult, but it also helps them see new opportunities. On top of that, being optimistic can have a huge effect on their health. According to a number of researches, people who are optimistic are healthier, happier, and live longer compared to people who aren’t. Optimists are also found to be more successful at different things compared to those who aren’t.
Developing Emotional Intelligence
Being emotionally intelligent can be developed since it is not a trait that is naturally innate. Teach your kids to understand and manage their own emotions. Doing this will help a lot as they grow older and experience various challenges and stressors in life.
Allot More Playtime
This one is a no-brainer. Having kids to play and do whatever they want can help them learn how to interact in groups. It teaches them to share, make compromises, solve problems, manage their emotions, and voice out their thoughts.
Let your kid have unstructured play more frequently and see how happier he or she becomes. If you have the time, you can also join in on the fun.
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Sometimes we worry too much what other people think that we unnecessarily forget what really matters. Relish the moments when you are together with your kid. Don’t be afraid to look goofy and stupid. What matters most is that you and your kid enjoy what you are doing and are creating these fun memories together.
So, go ahead, do that crazy dance, build your own box city, and catch those insects together. Remember that time flies by so fast that you won’t even notice them getting older. You can clean up the mess later, but you won’t get this moment back.
Having said all that, I think that the best advice of all is to just let your kid find his or her own happiness. Now, this might contradict everything that was stated earlier, but it’s true. Try to acknowledge that you aren’t in charge of your child’s happiness. You don’t need to sort out his or her feelings. Allow your child to learn how to cope and manage everything. Just be there for your child when he or she needs help.